If My Body Could Talk It Would Say…

Hey sis, it’s your body here. Yeah that thing you always talk so negatively about. You know what I’m referring to, all the hours of your day spent hating what I look like. You nit pick every inch of me, compare me to other bodys you see. You spend all of your free time and every minute in between wishing I were something else.

Better.

Skinnier.

Sexier.

Stronger.

Smoother.

Perkier.

Can you take a second to hush that white noise in your brain. Silence the negativity. Turn it off. And open your eyes. Really look at me. Please go stand in front of your mirror right now and take me all in. Look at me with fresh eyes and a softer perspective.

I have carried you through 25 years of life. Great days and terrible moments. You wouldn’t even be experiencing any of it without me. Those laugh lines forming are indicators of joy. Those wrinkles on your forehead show the worries and struggles we have overcome.

These arms that are floppier than they used to be craddle your most precious gifts.

All of those stretch marks and all the extra squish that you hate so much is a direct result of the AMAZING things I have done. I, your body, have twice created, carried and birthed two beautiful little humans.

These thighs and hips that no longer fit in your favorite pants set off a passionate fire within your husband.

Please stop and think about that magic the next time you start hating the way I look. I am a warrior.

I could use some care, it’s true. But I’m not as terrible and atrocious to look at as you let yourself believe.

Be kind to me. Give me some grace. Share some love my way. We’re in this together so stop treating me like the enemy.

Love you forever,

Your body.


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How to be Productive When You Want to be Lazy

I have the most difficult time deciding how to start each of my posts. Surely I’m not the only one? Or maybe I should take a class on how to improve my openers? 🤷

I am someone who struggles BIG time with self motivation. I mean B-I-G time. If given the opportunity to chose between sitting on the couch watching The Office and eating junk OR doing anything at all productive, my first instinct is to put on some comfy pants and plop on down.

That was fine and dandy when I had fewer responsibilities. But I’m like a mom now. 😮 And if I learned anything from TV moms from my childhood it’s that I can’t just lay around watching TV and shoveling junk food into my pie hole anymore.

So, what’s a naturally lazy person to do in order to be more productive? Stick with me to find out.

LISTS

Lists are an awesome way to be productive because they give you a visualization of the tasks you need to accomplish. They also come with that oh so satisfying feeling when you get to cross out a finished task.

TIMERS

Another great idea is to use a timer. Use the list you created of whatever it is you are wanting to do and set a timer for each new task. Example: you need to clean your kitchen, set a timer, let’s say 20 minutes, for each thing you need to clean. Once the timer goes off move on to the next task. This saves you from spending all of your energy on one or two tasks and feeling burned out.

CONSISTANCY

Find a routine that works best for you and stick with it, sis!

SELF LOVE

I bet you didn’t expect to see that did you? Self love is so freaking important in literally every aspect of life. You are human, you are not perfect, and sometimes you are going to choose to sit on your bum instead of scrubbing the toilets. As long as you understand that its okay, and you don’t hate talk yourself, then everything else will be okay!

2019 will be the year of productivity in my household! I want to be a positive role model to my children so that they can learn how to balance work and play. What are some things you hope to accomplish this new year? Let us know some things that help you stay productive, even on those days when you just want to be lazy!

My All Time Favorite Social Media Platform

There is no doubt that social media plays a MAJOR role in our daily lives. It’s an addiction, really. Some of us are wise though and get to use it in excess because our business depends on it, right?! 😂🤷

Everyone has their preferences of which platform is the best, and everyone is right. Social media works differently for each of us, that’s the beauty of it. Some people swear by Facebook while others love Instagram. (I have a love hate thing going with Insta at the moment).

For me, and my blog, I found my true love in Twitter. The whole vibe on Twitter is so much more welcoming and accepting than the other platforms. And people are so dang SUPPORTIVE! I truly couldn’t believe how supportive the blogging community on Twitter was when I first started. I expected a dog eat dog kind of mentality and boy was I pleasantly surprised when that wasn’t the case!

As far as how Twitter helps my blog, I see pretty decent consistancy on page views from my links on Twitter. The thing to understand about my relationshiop with Twitter is that I don’t use it soley as a marketing tool. I love to use it as a way to give and receive support with other bloggers.

I’ve messaged bloggers with WAY bigger followings than me to ask questions, and they have always been eager to help. It is very refreshing to have make friends with such amazing and caring people!

So, this post is dedicated to my Twitter fam! I love you all so so so much!

How To Cope With Anxiety As a Mom

Hello, lovelies. I’ve mentioned on Twitter and Instagram that for the last week or so my anxiety as peaked. I can’t really pinpoint where it’s coming from. More than likely a mixture of my still wonky post pregancy hormones and the changing seasons. Regardless of where my anxiety is stemming from, I thought this would be a good chance to talk about how to cope/deal with anxiety as a mother.

Moms, we sure think we have to be perfect all the time, don’t we? That alone creates anxiety that we like to try to shove away and pretend doesn’t exist. If you are like me you grew up in a home where feelings weren’t discussed and anxiety wasn’t a real issue, just an excuse. I sure hope you had a different growing up than that! Believe me, it has been hard trying to understand and cope with my anxiety as an adult and as a mother.

I’m not going to say that I have it figured out, because I’m not even close. I am sharing some ways that I have found have helped me before when dealing with stress and anxiety in my life.


BREATHE

That may sound cliche, and some may roll their eyes. But I want you to find a quiet place, sit down, close your eyes, and focus on breathing in and breathing out. There is peace to be found in intentional breathing. This is my number one way to help myself calm down and refocus.

MAKE A MENTAL LIST OF GRATITUDE

Another practice that helps me when anxiety creeps up is taking a step back and listing off the top 10 or so things in my life I am truly grateful for.

YOGA

I first tried yoga about a year after my son was born. I was still carrying around the baby weight, plus a few extra pounds, and was feeling alot of anxiety and had very low self-esteem. I was DESPERATE to find something to help me feel better. The first night, after I finished, I layed on my mat and bawled. I felt so much tension and stress flow out of my body, it was basically a religious experience. I continued practicing yoga regularly for months. I have fallen off the wagon in the last year, so I honestly think if I started again I would notice a huge difference in myself.

TALK TO SOMEONE

Communicating your feelings to someone you trust is a great way to deal with your anxiety. It could be your spouse, friend, sibling, parents, coworkers, some random lady on the Internet… *cough cough* me. Reach out for help when you need it! It isn’t a sign of weakness, but quite the opposite, reaching out to talk to someone is a sign of strength and shows your willingness to feel better. If you feel like you have no one to talk to, please shoot me an email or find me on Twitter! I mean it, sister!

FIND A HOBBY

I use the word hobby, but what I’m trying to say is find something, anything, to do that makes you happy and is for YOU. It could be going for a run. Reading. Sitting on your porch with a cup of coffee. Taking a bubble bath with a glass of wine. Whatever it is, make sure it is something you are doing just for you. It’s OKAY to do things for you.


These are all ways I have found to help me cope with anxiety and stress in my life. I think an important part of feeling better is acknowledging that there is something that needs help in your life. There is no shame in having anxiety. I cannot stress enough how important self care is, especially as a mother. You cannot thoroughly take care of your family if there are pieces of you that are broken. Take care of yourself, sister.

Let me put this out here one more time: I am here for you. I believe in you. I love you.

We Co-sleep (And that’s okay.)

Woah. It’s been awhile since I’ve sat down and written a post. It’s been awhile since I’ve had the energy to be inspired enough to do so. Life with 2 kids is great, don’t get me wrong, I just don’t think I was mentally prepared for how exhausted I would be! Neverless, being a mommy is the greatest blessing I’ve ever received! I wake up every day so thankful.

On the topic of being a mother, can we take a minute to talk about “mom shaming”. It’s a real and serious issue in our society these days. Every day on all platforms of social media I come across posts of moms shaming other moms for the most random things. It’s out of hand.

One of the topics that I see moms get “yelled” at most about is co-sleeping. There is a huge stigma in our society that sleeping with our children is a bad thing. We are pushed so hard to sleep train and make sure our children can sleep alone from birth on.

(I understand that co-sleeping does have the risk of possibly killing your child. That’s why I am going to link some products that help prevent that from happening.)

Now, co-sleeping isn’t for everyone. And I’m not going to write this post as my form of shaming anyone who chooses not to do so.

I’m writing this to raise awareness to shaming. To explain mine and my husband’s choice of co-sleeping with our son.

When Titan was born we were new parents, clueless as to what to do. For the first few months of his life we struggled to sleep train. We spent countless nights getting up several times to put him back to sleep in his crib. It was mentally and physically exhausting. Now, I don’t remember exactly when we started letting Titan sleep in bed with us. But, I do remember the intense mixture of fear and relief that it brought us.

On one hand, he was finally sleeping through the night, even skipping an overnight feeding. It was so freaking amazing to finally get one long stretch of sleep every night.

On the other hand, we were afraid of, well, killing our baby. So, when I say that we started getting a full nights sleep, it was a very fragile sleep. I woke up every time I moved, or Titan moved, or Barak moved.

As I mentioned before, there are products on the market that strive to make co-sleeping easier and safer. We slept with pillows between us and him to keep us from rolling over on top of him.

2.5 years later, Titan still sleeps with us. We have grown very accustomed to him being there. There is the question of when do we start to transition him into his own bed. We’ve talked about this for over a year now. Within the last few weeks, we moved his bed into our room. This gives him the ability to sleep in his own bed, with the comfort of knowing we are still nearby. And, most nights, he still wakes up and climbs into bed with us.

Fun fact: co-sleeping with your children is normal almost everywhere else in the world besides America. Why do you think that is???

We are okay with our choice of co-sleeping. And that’s okay. And if there are parents out there who don’t like the idea of co-sleeping, that’s okay. Do you see where I’m going with this?

It’s OKAY to have a parenting style different from someone else’s. It’s okay to make choices for your children that go against popular social belief. It’s NOT okay to spend your day hiding behind a keyboard making other mom’s feel like failures just because they do things differently than you.

Wow. What a bold post I am writing after being MIA for so long. But it feels good!

Co-sleep. Don’t co-sleep. Just love each other and support one another. Accept that we are all different, and as long as our children are happy and healthy, that’s all that matters.

Rant over. 🙂

 

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