If My Body Could Talk It Would Say…

Hey sis, it’s your body here. Yeah that thing you always talk so negatively about. You know what I’m referring to, all the hours of your day spent hating what I look like. You nit pick every inch of me, compare me to other bodys you see. You spend all of your free time and every minute in between wishing I were something else.

Better.

Skinnier.

Sexier.

Stronger.

Smoother.

Perkier.

Can you take a second to hush that white noise in your brain. Silence the negativity. Turn it off. And open your eyes. Really look at me. Please go stand in front of your mirror right now and take me all in. Look at me with fresh eyes and a softer perspective.

I have carried you through 25 years of life. Great days and terrible moments. You wouldn’t even be experiencing any of it without me. Those laugh lines forming are indicators of joy. Those wrinkles on your forehead show the worries and struggles we have overcome.

These arms that are floppier than they used to be craddle your most precious gifts.

All of those stretch marks and all the extra squish that you hate so much is a direct result of the AMAZING things I have done. I, your body, have twice created, carried and birthed two beautiful little humans.

These thighs and hips that no longer fit in your favorite pants set off a passionate fire within your husband.

Please stop and think about that magic the next time you start hating the way I look. I am a warrior.

I could use some care, it’s true. But I’m not as terrible and atrocious to look at as you let yourself believe.

Be kind to me. Give me some grace. Share some love my way. We’re in this together so stop treating me like the enemy.

Love you forever,

Your body.


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Health/Fitness Journey | My “Why”

Soooooo… this is probably going to be more of a ramble than anything else. I’m not entirely sure what I’m going to say.


Sometimes I’ll start a sentance and I don’t even know where it’s going. I just hope I find it along the way.

Michael Scott | The Office

I have decided I am tired of feeling unhealthy, and honestly, overweight. Don’t worry, this is not going to be a negative post. I have delivered 2 babies by ceserian in under 3 years, my body has not bounced back. I’m not ashamed of it, my body grew two of the most amazing human beings I have ever met! My body rocks! However, between these 2 pregnancies I have gained over 60 pounds, this makes my body feel tired and sluggish.

And let’s be honest, it’s hard to look down and see an entirely different body than what you were used to and still feel confident in it.

So, I’m embarking on a journey to lose the baby weight, and to get in shape. I don’t want to be that person who gets winded going up a flight of stairs. And I’m tired of being that person who’s diet is mainly made up of Taco Bell.

I am beginning this journey for:

  1. Myself: I want to feel strong, healthy, capable.
  2. My family: I don’t want my unhealthy habits affecting the quality of my time spent with my husband and children.

My thought on writing this is that if I keep up on updates through my blog then I will better hold myself accountable.

Here’s to the better version of myself that I am setting out to find! 🙂

How To Cope With Anxiety As a Mom

Hello, lovelies. I’ve mentioned on Twitter and Instagram that for the last week or so my anxiety as peaked. I can’t really pinpoint where it’s coming from. More than likely a mixture of my still wonky post pregancy hormones and the changing seasons. Regardless of where my anxiety is stemming from, I thought this would be a good chance to talk about how to cope/deal with anxiety as a mother.

Moms, we sure think we have to be perfect all the time, don’t we? That alone creates anxiety that we like to try to shove away and pretend doesn’t exist. If you are like me you grew up in a home where feelings weren’t discussed and anxiety wasn’t a real issue, just an excuse. I sure hope you had a different growing up than that! Believe me, it has been hard trying to understand and cope with my anxiety as an adult and as a mother.

I’m not going to say that I have it figured out, because I’m not even close. I am sharing some ways that I have found have helped me before when dealing with stress and anxiety in my life.


BREATHE

That may sound cliche, and some may roll their eyes. But I want you to find a quiet place, sit down, close your eyes, and focus on breathing in and breathing out. There is peace to be found in intentional breathing. This is my number one way to help myself calm down and refocus.

MAKE A MENTAL LIST OF GRATITUDE

Another practice that helps me when anxiety creeps up is taking a step back and listing off the top 10 or so things in my life I am truly grateful for.

YOGA

I first tried yoga about a year after my son was born. I was still carrying around the baby weight, plus a few extra pounds, and was feeling alot of anxiety and had very low self-esteem. I was DESPERATE to find something to help me feel better. The first night, after I finished, I layed on my mat and bawled. I felt so much tension and stress flow out of my body, it was basically a religious experience. I continued practicing yoga regularly for months. I have fallen off the wagon in the last year, so I honestly think if I started again I would notice a huge difference in myself.

TALK TO SOMEONE

Communicating your feelings to someone you trust is a great way to deal with your anxiety. It could be your spouse, friend, sibling, parents, coworkers, some random lady on the Internet… *cough cough* me. Reach out for help when you need it! It isn’t a sign of weakness, but quite the opposite, reaching out to talk to someone is a sign of strength and shows your willingness to feel better. If you feel like you have no one to talk to, please shoot me an email or find me on Twitter! I mean it, sister!

FIND A HOBBY

I use the word hobby, but what I’m trying to say is find something, anything, to do that makes you happy and is for YOU. It could be going for a run. Reading. Sitting on your porch with a cup of coffee. Taking a bubble bath with a glass of wine. Whatever it is, make sure it is something you are doing just for you. It’s OKAY to do things for you.


These are all ways I have found to help me cope with anxiety and stress in my life. I think an important part of feeling better is acknowledging that there is something that needs help in your life. There is no shame in having anxiety. I cannot stress enough how important self care is, especially as a mother. You cannot thoroughly take care of your family if there are pieces of you that are broken. Take care of yourself, sister.

Let me put this out here one more time: I am here for you. I believe in you. I love you.

Coping with A.M.H.

Hi friends, welcome back. Today we’re going to talk about A.M.H. syndrome. This typically occurs to mothers whose days just don’t have enough hours.

Oh wait, you’re probably wondering what A.M.H. syndrome is.

Always Messy House.

I know, surely, I am not alone in this uphill battle to keep my house from looking like a hurricane just came ripping through.

I’m here to tell you, it’s OKAY.

As a full time working mom of two, my days fly by. I often feel guilt, you heard me, GUILT when I don’t have time to clean.

I’m laughing to myself right now when I think about the fact that I have, on multiple occasions, stressed myself out to the point of tears because my house almost never looks “perfect”.

I think it’s society’s fault. We are bombarded by the idea that we have to keep our houses clean, and organized, and PERFECT at all times.

I’m here to tell you it’s not realistic to believe these things. Life happens. If you didn’t get a chance today to wash your dishes, don’t sweat it, neither did I.

I’m teaching myself to enjoy the moments with my kids while they are happening, and worry about the mess later.

(I’m not promoting living in squander, I’m simply saying don’t make yourself sick over messes that can wait until your kids are in bed.) 🙂

So, mommas, I hope this helps you take a deep breath and know that you aren’t alone. I am right there with you, stepping through my house like I’m walking through a field full of land mines.

We Co-sleep (And that’s okay.)

Woah. It’s been awhile since I’ve sat down and written a post. It’s been awhile since I’ve had the energy to be inspired enough to do so. Life with 2 kids is great, don’t get me wrong, I just don’t think I was mentally prepared for how exhausted I would be! Neverless, being a mommy is the greatest blessing I’ve ever received! I wake up every day so thankful.

On the topic of being a mother, can we take a minute to talk about “mom shaming”. It’s a real and serious issue in our society these days. Every day on all platforms of social media I come across posts of moms shaming other moms for the most random things. It’s out of hand.

One of the topics that I see moms get “yelled” at most about is co-sleeping. There is a huge stigma in our society that sleeping with our children is a bad thing. We are pushed so hard to sleep train and make sure our children can sleep alone from birth on.

(I understand that co-sleeping does have the risk of possibly killing your child. That’s why I am going to link some products that help prevent that from happening.)

Now, co-sleeping isn’t for everyone. And I’m not going to write this post as my form of shaming anyone who chooses not to do so.

I’m writing this to raise awareness to shaming. To explain mine and my husband’s choice of co-sleeping with our son.

When Titan was born we were new parents, clueless as to what to do. For the first few months of his life we struggled to sleep train. We spent countless nights getting up several times to put him back to sleep in his crib. It was mentally and physically exhausting. Now, I don’t remember exactly when we started letting Titan sleep in bed with us. But, I do remember the intense mixture of fear and relief that it brought us.

On one hand, he was finally sleeping through the night, even skipping an overnight feeding. It was so freaking amazing to finally get one long stretch of sleep every night.

On the other hand, we were afraid of, well, killing our baby. So, when I say that we started getting a full nights sleep, it was a very fragile sleep. I woke up every time I moved, or Titan moved, or Barak moved.

As I mentioned before, there are products on the market that strive to make co-sleeping easier and safer. We slept with pillows between us and him to keep us from rolling over on top of him.

2.5 years later, Titan still sleeps with us. We have grown very accustomed to him being there. There is the question of when do we start to transition him into his own bed. We’ve talked about this for over a year now. Within the last few weeks, we moved his bed into our room. This gives him the ability to sleep in his own bed, with the comfort of knowing we are still nearby. And, most nights, he still wakes up and climbs into bed with us.

Fun fact: co-sleeping with your children is normal almost everywhere else in the world besides America. Why do you think that is???

We are okay with our choice of co-sleeping. And that’s okay. And if there are parents out there who don’t like the idea of co-sleeping, that’s okay. Do you see where I’m going with this?

It’s OKAY to have a parenting style different from someone else’s. It’s okay to make choices for your children that go against popular social belief. It’s NOT okay to spend your day hiding behind a keyboard making other mom’s feel like failures just because they do things differently than you.

Wow. What a bold post I am writing after being MIA for so long. But it feels good!

Co-sleep. Don’t co-sleep. Just love each other and support one another. Accept that we are all different, and as long as our children are happy and healthy, that’s all that matters.

Rant over. 🙂

 

I am not affiliated with any brand, just showing you all an option out there. 🙂

Bucket List | Summer 2018

Hey y’all! I think all of us here in Southern Illinois have no doubt that summer is upon us. I’m a little confused on where spring went? Did we even have a spring this year?! Oh well, summer it is. I thought it would be fun to share a bucket list of things I want to do this summer. As many of you know, I am days away from having baby number 2. 🙂 So, having a newborn will define my summer. I also have a 2 year old boy, and I don’t want him to miss out on summer time fun. With that being said here is my family friendly bucket list for the summer. 🙂

Bucket List

 

Go to the zoo

Have a bonfire/wiener roast

Have a water balloon fight

Have a picnic at a lake

Go on evening walks

Catch lightning bugs

Go stargazing

Play at the park

Romantic date night with my hubbie 😉

Go on a road trip

 

If you have any fun suggestions of things my family (a 2 year old and newborn) could do this summer be sure to let me know! 🙂

 

Inspirational Monday

Happy Monday buddies! I hope you’ve had a relaxing weekend and are ready to take on the week to come! I have to confess that I totally fell out of the habit of posting on Mondays, but here’s to fresh starts!

With Mother’s Day approaching this week this quote seemed fitting. 🙂

motherhoodquote

To all of the mothers out there, you are women warriors! Never forget that! 🙂 ♥