Hello, lovelies. I’ve mentioned on Twitter and Instagram that for the last week or so my anxiety as peaked. I can’t really pinpoint where it’s coming from. More than likely a mixture of my still wonky post pregancy hormones and the changing seasons. Regardless of where my anxiety is stemming from, I thought this would be a good chance to talk about how to cope/deal with anxiety as a mother.
Moms, we sure think we have to be perfect all the time, don’t we? That alone creates anxiety that we like to try to shove away and pretend doesn’t exist. If you are like me you grew up in a home where feelings weren’t discussed and anxiety wasn’t a real issue, just an excuse. I sure hope you had a different growing up than that! Believe me, it has been hard trying to understand and cope with my anxiety as an adult and as a mother.
I’m not going to say that I have it figured out, because I’m not even close. I am sharing some ways that I have found have helped me before when dealing with stress and anxiety in my life.
That may sound cliche, and some may roll their eyes. But I want you to find a quiet place, sit down, close your eyes, and focus on breathing in and breathing out. There is peace to be found in intentional breathing. This is my number one way to help myself calm down and refocus.
MAKE A MENTAL LIST OF GRATITUDE
Another practice that helps me when anxiety creeps up is taking a step back and listing off the top 10 or so things in my life I am truly grateful for.
I first tried yoga about a year after my son was born. I was still carrying around the baby weight, plus a few extra pounds, and was feeling alot of anxiety and had very low self-esteem. I was DESPERATE to find something to help me feel better. The first night, after I finished, I layed on my mat and bawled. I felt so much tension and stress flow out of my body, it was basically a religious experience. I continued practicing yoga regularly for months. I have fallen off the wagon in the last year, so I honestly think if I started again I would notice a huge difference in myself.
TALK TO SOMEONE
Communicating your feelings to someone you trust is a great way to deal with your anxiety. It could be your spouse, friend, sibling, parents, coworkers, some random lady on the Internet… *cough cough* me. Reach out for help when you need it! It isn’t a sign of weakness, but quite the opposite, reaching out to talk to someone is a sign of strength and shows your willingness to feel better. If you feel like you have no one to talk to, please shoot me an email or find me on Twitter! I mean it, sister!
FIND A HOBBY
I use the word hobby, but what I’m trying to say is find something, anything, to do that makes you happy and is for YOU. It could be going for a run. Reading. Sitting on your porch with a cup of coffee. Taking a bubble bath with a glass of wine. Whatever it is, make sure it is something you are doing just for you. It’s OKAY to do things for you.
These are all ways I have found to help me cope with anxiety and stress in my life. I think an important part of feeling better is acknowledging that there is something that needs help in your life. There is no shame in having anxiety. I cannot stress enough how important self care is, especially as a mother. You cannot thoroughly take care of your family if there are pieces of you that are broken. Take care of yourself, sister.
Let me put this out here one more time: I am here for you. I believe in you. I love you.