Woah. It’s been awhile since I’ve sat down and written a post. It’s been awhile since I’ve had the energy to be inspired enough to do so. Life with 2 kids is great, don’t get me wrong, I just don’t think I was mentally prepared for how exhausted I would be! Neverless, being a mommy is the greatest blessing I’ve ever received! I wake up every day so thankful.
On the topic of being a mother, can we take a minute to talk about “mom shaming”. It’s a real and serious issue in our society these days. Every day on all platforms of social media I come across posts of moms shaming other moms for the most random things. It’s out of hand.
One of the topics that I see moms get “yelled” at most about is co-sleeping. There is a huge stigma in our society that sleeping with our children is a bad thing. We are pushed so hard to sleep train and make sure our children can sleep alone from birth on.
(I understand that co-sleeping does have the risk of possibly killing your child. That’s why I am going to link some products that help prevent that from happening.)
Now, co-sleeping isn’t for everyone. And I’m not going to write this post as my form of shaming anyone who chooses not to do so.
I’m writing this to raise awareness to shaming. To explain mine and my husband’s choice of co-sleeping with our son.
When Titan was born we were new parents, clueless as to what to do. For the first few months of his life we struggled to sleep train. We spent countless nights getting up several times to put him back to sleep in his crib. It was mentally and physically exhausting. Now, I don’t remember exactly when we started letting Titan sleep in bed with us. But, I do remember the intense mixture of fear and relief that it brought us.
On one hand, he was finally sleeping through the night, even skipping an overnight feeding. It was so freaking amazing to finally get one long stretch of sleep every night.
On the other hand, we were afraid of, well, killing our baby. So, when I say that we started getting a full nights sleep, it was a very fragile sleep. I woke up every time I moved, or Titan moved, or Barak moved.
As I mentioned before, there are products on the market that strive to make co-sleeping easier and safer. We slept with pillows between us and him to keep us from rolling over on top of him.
2.5 years later, Titan still sleeps with us. We have grown very accustomed to him being there. There is the question of when do we start to transition him into his own bed. We’ve talked about this for over a year now. Within the last few weeks, we moved his bed into our room. This gives him the ability to sleep in his own bed, with the comfort of knowing we are still nearby. And, most nights, he still wakes up and climbs into bed with us.
Fun fact: co-sleeping with your children is normal almost everywhere else in the world besides America. Why do you think that is???
We are okay with our choice of co-sleeping. And that’s okay. And if there are parents out there who don’t like the idea of co-sleeping, that’s okay. Do you see where I’m going with this?
It’s OKAY to have a parenting style different from someone else’s. It’s okay to make choices for your children that go against popular social belief. It’s NOT okay to spend your day hiding behind a keyboard making other mom’s feel like failures just because they do things differently than you.
Wow. What a bold post I am writing after being MIA for so long. But it feels good!
Co-sleep. Don’t co-sleep. Just love each other and support one another. Accept that we are all different, and as long as our children are happy and healthy, that’s all that matters.
Rant over. 🙂